What is the difference between the best compliment you’ve ever received and the best compliment you’ve ever received but didn’t believe? The difference was likely you. The difference was likely what you allowed—or didn’t allow—to become part of your experience. It could be Imposter Syndrome. Imposter Syndrome, recognized since the 1970s, is a psychological pattern
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Hello Debbie! In February, many of my work, and personal, interactions had people asking me about my relationship and sometimes the inquiries were difficult to address. As an introvert who enjoys down time, and someone who happens to be single right now, these two questions are challenging, and I’d like mindset coaching and responses that
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Dear Debbie: A few months ago, you shared how to be a sponsor and speak up. I love it and, yet, sometimes when I get feedback, I get embarrassed and don’t know how to respond. How can I express my regret, and embarrassment, without making the other person feel awkward? Thank you, Imperfect, Embarrassed Feedback
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Hi Deb! Your new TBBW feature is cool and, as long as my name is not used, I would LOVE my question to get answered. Here it is – What do you do when a manager is rude or dismissing someone else, in a meeting and the person doesn’t report to you. I want to
Read More Dear Debbie, Can you help with some Out of Office (OOO) coaching? I recently took some time off from work, but I always try to be available for urgent matters that need my attention. I explain that while I’m on vacation, for anything that needs immediate attention, I can be reached on my cell phone.
Read More Having houseguests can be flattering since they want to stay at your home and enjoy your space and company. But having houseguests can be relationship-strainers since some people want to use your home as a crash pad and treat it worse than a rental car on spring break. If you can relate to those houseguest
Read More Trust is much desired and, perhaps, missed, the safety and desire to work somewhere in a trusting environment ranks high on most people’s lists when it comes personal, and professional, relationships. Because of the intangibility of trust, it can seem illusive and in the etiquette of trust, there are three aspects, or actions, that are
Read More Humans are a series of emotions, and habits. Our emotions can drive our commitment to well-serving habits and our habits can either quell, or enhance our emotional states in reaction, or response, to people and situations. What happens when emotions are presented at the office, on Zoom/Teams, or with clients, and colleagues in a way
Read More While likely none of us want to be late, it happens. Kids, pets, traffic, distractions and more can keep us all from being on schedule and/or where we would like to be when we would like to be there. What to do? There’s no need to panic, lie or start rationalizing internally, or to others,
Read More We have been Zoom-ing and Teams-ing for years and while the frequency of these video meetings may have subsided since the height of the pandemic, the format is here to stay. People have “Zoom Room” fatigue and Teams Meeting “taxed-outed-ness.” So being intentional can keep the time to a minimum and maximize the technology
Read More Have you ever had an idea so strong you felt like you could not wait to share it? It seems most of us will agree, publicly at least, that we don’t like a “Donnie Downer” (surely you can appreciate the reason we don’t say “Debbie Downer”…), and yet very rarely do we think our enthusiasm
Read More You might agree that most unsolicited feedback is perceived as criticism. And, with that in mind, you also may agree that it takes constructive, useful feedback to grow. So, what happens when you receive an idea, criticism, feedback or a “You know, you really should …”? It is important to realize most people—not all—absolutely do
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